Last week I spoke with a client who I’d worked with almost a year ago. He’d hired me to help him search for a similar role as he currently held, but in an adjacent industry. There was one company in particular on his employment short list that he wanted us to target. He had gotten an insider scoop the company was planning an upcoming restructure and wanted to position himself as a front runner when the time came. 

My client got right to work networking and prepping, until finally, his ideal role appeared. He applied and massaged his application in the various ways we coach our clients to do, and two weeks later, he received a call to interview. Three rounds later, he got a message from the recruiter letting him know he was their top candidate, and would be receiving the hiring package in the coming days. 

After six weeks — and repeated follow up — my client gave up hope, and redirected his search. 

Recruiter ghosting derails more job searches than bad resumes or weak interview skills.

The silence is far more predictable than it should be. 53% of job seekers experienced ghosting as part of their job search in 2025.

A hiring manager goes on vacation, or a role gets put on hold. The recruiter shifts focus. 

Your client hears nothing and assumes the worst.

And although ghosting is common; it doesn’t sting any less when it happens. 

Your job is to prepare clients for the turbulent nature of the job market and recruiter ghosting, so they don’t lose momentum.

It is common for clients to enter recruiter relationships with unrealistic assumptions.

A good conversation feels like a guarantee. Silence feels like a verdict.

Recruiters manage dozens of active searches at once. Their loyalty flows toward the company paying their fee. When business priorities change, communication stops. The dynamic is structural and built into how recruiting works.

Teach your clients how recruiting timelines work. 

Agency recruiters move quickly on contingency and typically respond within two weeks if there's a fit. Corporate recruiters work within longer organizational cycles, often two to four weeks. Executive search moves slowly by design.

By helping your clients understand recruiters and their processes, they will have a realistic frame for what they're experiencing, and it keeps them from internalizing delays that have nothing to do with them.

When a recruiter goes quiet, your client gets one follow-up attempt. 

Encourage them to wait five business days after the last contact, send a brief professional message, then redirect energy entirely to other opportunities.

The message itself is simple: acknowledge the prior conversation, confirm continued interest, and say thank you.

Three sentences. That's all it needs to be.

Coaching clients to accept this can take some work. The urge to keep following up is strong. Help them see that repeated contact erodes the relationship rather than strengthening it. 

One clean follow-up preserves goodwill and protects the client's energy for the search that's still ahead.

Help your clients build two informal categories.

Transactional recruiters move fast and focus on volume. 

They're filling roles and the right approach is efficiency: respond promptly and keep messages short.

Relationship recruiters operate differently. 

They ask about long-term goals, share market insight, and check in even without an immediate opening. 

These are worth cultivating over time through regular updates, thoughtful networking engagement, and genuine professional investment.

After two or three interactions, patterns become visible. 

Teach clients to observe who actually responds, who delivers useful feedback, and who has generated a real opportunity. 

Over time, they'll know which recruiters deserve ongoing attention and which ones to engage with professionally but minimally.

Recruiter relationships should occupy no more than 20% of a client's job search time. 

The rest belongs to direct applications, networking, referrals, and skill-building.

When clients spread effort across channels, recruiter silence loses its power. They're making progress elsewhere, and the waiting stops feeling like stalling.

A recruiter who doesn't respond today might reach out in three months when the right role opens. Consistent, low-pressure visibility compounds over time, and it produces far better results than anxious follow-ups.

The clients who navigate this well understand that patience in one channel and momentum across all the others go together.

Back to my former client: Eventually, he did land a comparable role at another company. His call last week was to let me know the recruiter who’d ghosted him nine months ago had finally reached out with that hiring package. 

Unfortunately for the recruiter, my client was no longer interested.

Heather
The Coach for Career Coaches

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